Are you looking for individual counseling for couples, or one on one counseling? The answer to that question depends a great deal on what you are looking for. Some people simply want the advice of an experienced professional who they can go to when they need it, either in their personal lives or in their professional lives. Other people seek out professional and experienced counselors with much more specific needs in mind.
For example, there are many couples who need some extra help to keep their marriage together and healthy. There are also many families where one parent is very isolated and lonely because of some divorce or separation from the other parent. There are many children in these families who suffer in an environment where the parents are divorced or separated. These families may have drug or alcohol issues or other problems that require professional and experienced advice. In this instance, one parent would be better suited for counseling with a therapist who specializes in these particular needs.
Then there are those couples seeking individual counseling who simply do not believe in professionals. They feel much better if they can find a competent individual to work with on their own. However, if this were true, how would so many people be self-employed therapists and doctors? Wouldn’t we see a lot more individuals like this? I don’t think so and here are three reasons why.
First of all, most people just aren’t equipped to handle the different kinds of problems that arise in relationships. We are all unique and each of us has our own unique set of personality and habits and needs that relate to marriage and family life in particular. When an individual or couple seeks out the services of a professional counselor, they are typically looking for a person who understands them and can help identify their unique set of problems and their course of action to resolve them. The problem with most professionals, at least those who offer traditional forms of therapy, is that they are trained only in the way they perceive to practice what they preach. In other words, the majority of counselors and therapists don’t come equipped to help you understand your own unique relationship challenges and the unique techniques that will be necessary to solve them.
Next, there is an inherent conflict of interest involved when professional counselors, psychologists, and marriage and family therapists work with one another. When a professional such as a psychologist or therapist works with a couple who are in need of counseling, they are engaged in a conflict of interest. What makes this even more complicated is the fact that many therapists and psychologist charge higher fees for individual sessions than they do for group sessions with couples. This means that the professional may not actually be the best individual to work with when a couple needs individual help addressing their specific marriage problems.
Finally, the individual counseling services of a professional are less helpful than they first appear. The problem is that most individuals seeking professional counseling services are simply looking to find a professional to work with that they feel they can trust. The professional is not the professional’s best friend, and it is not easy to let go of a trusted counselor once he or she is working with a client. This is why it is so important that individuals who are struggling with relationship issues work closely with one another before making a decision to see a professional counselor.
It is difficult enough when a couple first start their therapy together. Going through the motions of a session focused on how to make your relationship work is helpful, but does little for the couple at the present time. A couple has to take an active role to help themselves overcome the issues at hand. One of the key things an individual counseling service can do for a couple is to identify the issues and unique techniques necessary to address those issues. Once that is accomplished, a professional can then start working with the couple on implementing those techniques and work to provide an intervention that addresses the specific issue at hand.
The most effective couples-centered counseling services recognize that every couple is different and so are the methods they use to deal with their unique relationship problems. If a professional feels that a couple is working too closely together and not allowing each other time to be alone to deal with a problem, he or she may offer a different type of professional intervention. That is because there are other factors that can cause a couple conflict, such as children or finances, so a different type of intervention may be needed. Regardless, of whether a couple is working together to resolve a specific conflict or not, professional intervention is still necessary to ensure that all angles are covered.